"When we were young" (yup, you've heard that phase before) we were poor but nobody told us we were poor, we did not receive any assistance. As it turned out , our character thereby benefitted from the independence. we, as kids, managed our own little society by ourselves with no intervention, not only in the school yard, but on the softball field as well. We thereby built a rather "thick skin" to deal with the realities of life that we surely would encounter. No snowflake us. And, complaining to our parents about nearly anything did not bring help, in fact complaining usually brought the risk of more to complain about.